recently i've been thinking.. why do people complain about their work, colleagues, boss or even their friends? lunch time is a good time to mingle and share with colleagues, but also a good time to complain??
ok, pouring out woes and sharing frustration is good and healthy but beware - there is a thin line between sharing and gossipping. personally, when the topic has gone beyond how you feel about the issue, and gone into sharing personnal comments about the person, that is gossip. gossip does not necessary need to bitch about his personal affairs, but simply 'sharing' with others how 'bad' you feel that person is - that is gossip.
first of all, i wonder how do you judge? maybe he is having a bad day, maybe he is also finding ways to improve himself in life (perhaps not in the generally well-acceptable way), or maybe he is just really out to make your life difficult.. what's wrong with that? we are all created differently, put in a different environments hence different values and attitudes. generally we all behave differently, our ideas are different.. why do we allow our lives to be miserable by harbouring all these complaints on these differences? will these gossip make him a better person? i believe everyone of us are called to 'polish' one another, just like how raw stones go through all the grinding and rubbing to polish themselves into gems. yes-he is making your life difficult, but it has a PURPOSE!
before we complain that he's purposely making life difficult for us, very often i wonder - are we also making life difficult for others (knowingly and UNknowingly)? i know i have always try to be a friendly friend and colleague, but there are times i just get on people's nerves with my friendliness. let alone the times i purposely make things difficult for some, just because i am not in the mood to be accommodating.
listening to all these complaints.. i can only smile.. not to condone their 'harmless' judgement, but i pray one day people will come to realise the imperfection in every of us, including themselves. especially so for us Christians, we proclaim 'love your enemies as yourself' and 'judge not, for the same judgement will be on you', yet the same tendency to judge, to gossip like the world is such a easy entrapment.
... what can i say.... we are all imperfect stones, require one another to grind and polish each other. hopefully, we will be able to shine forth like precious gems after all these uncomfortable friction in polishing process.
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