Good news to share! CellGroup N277 is MULTIPLYING! it's a joyous also a sad news to me. Joyous cos multiplication = more souls in the Kingdom of God, ie a growing church! Sad cos i've to 're-integrate' into the new cell.. nt that i dun like to reintegrate, but i'll be seeing less of some of my current cell members whom i'm very comfortable with now. well, that is CHC.. one cant be too comfortable in his cellgroup that he resist changing cos CHC is really dynamic and cellgroup WILL multiply, whether u like it or not. This is what a healthy cell should be, just like our body cells, teeming with life and ever-multiplying.
ok.. now to my pondering question.. someone just shared her marriage woes with me.. i guess, it's typical issue - husband does not trust her enough to let her stay out late with her friends. i can understand her frustration yet also his insecurity, esp i'm also one of those who has more close guy-friends than ger-friends. i also had a hard time n frustration in past relationship, that my bf then took a cab to my block and waited all night till i return..just to see who i was with. (incredible, right?) that is how insecurity can drive a guy to behave.
but seriously, i've learnt (i also hope i've taught Bosco well in this area).. A man cannot be so insecured to this extend.. Yes, you may 'fear' n wonder what is your gf or wife doing this late hour, is she really out with her friends? but at end of all these doubts, as a man, you MUST trust her. by trusting her, you are not only putting the 'relationship ownership' on her (as matter of fact, it will make the outside temptations less challenging and less enticing) and you also free yourself from all these worrying.. ok, let's look at the worst scenario - ur gf really cheat on you. yes, it hurts n it's disappointing.. but hey, you gave your all in treasuring and trusting the relationship. one day, she will look back and regret for hurting you and not treasuring the love you gave. That is the true sad reality! And best of all, you are answerable to God in all your words and deeds. trust me, there's nothing worse than not being able to answer to God. you cant even find 'excuse' cos He knows your very true intention of heart!
Even more for married couples.. if you don't learn to trust your partner, u r not just caging her but also yourself. Guy, do you know that if a lady agrees and accepts your marriage proposal, it's really because she really loves you and willing to go thru thick and thin with you? The fact that she has committed her entire life into your hands, implies she has decided to trust you with all her heart. Cant you trust her the same?
as for this friend of mine, i know she is tired of 'making things work'. But when nothing seems to work, there's only One Person who can make impossible possible. And prayer is the first key. I'm not saying you dont work and yet expect miracles to happen, but working with God will make it so much easier for u to bear. He knows the start (alpha) and the end (omega) - who knows it better than Him?
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